This 12 month period has being of growing, learning, accepting and most of all of knowing who I am, what I’m capable of and how blessed I am.
Being a mother of an Asperger’s syndrome boy gives you a new perspective in life. I really don’t know who is more blessed, my magnificent boy or me.
I don’t know who is the teacher, the kids or the parents. In my case I have 2 teachers that show me every day that being happy, have fun and joy in life is more important than work, or paying bills. All this is not as important as having time with your kids or family. Problems, troubles and responsibilities we will have all along our life, but family is the most important thing in the world. For me my boys are the reason why I get up every day and go to work, and at night when I’m so tired, I just look at them while sleeping and see how blessed I am. I might not get huge presents all year-long but seeing my boys every day and being able to provide for them, is a huge blessing. They are my present 365 days a year and I feel so blessed about it.
Last week my little one told me very sad that he didn’t remember his childhood. He is 9 and doesn’t remember when he was little. I always knew Asperger’s kids have trouble remembering but it was not clear for me how much. I ended showing his baby pictures and he was happy. But this is something that has made me think a lot.
A happy life is a chain of happy memories, there is not a perfect moment, we create the perfect moments with our thoughts and even with our attitude, we make them. If we are just waiting for the perfect moment to come to make your move and say hi to the love of your life, it may never come. You need to be attuned with the universe to know when it comes, to know when to act, just like the people who love to surf they feel and know when the perfect wave is coming, life is like that, you need to be in the present, living each moment fully and happy, because as my kid show me, memorizes can be lost or forgotten. A picture will help you remember all the joy you have in your life.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment because it may never come, don’t wait for the perfect day, just create your perfect day by your attitude, by being attune with the Universe, by being happy, by feeling safe, by feeling proud and by loving and accepting yourself. This is how I teach my boys to be, sometimes stress and worries come but when I make a mistake I apologize for being grumpy or tiered or not fun as they need me to be, but there is no day without me expressing my love to them.
Create good memories for your family, every action is important. Actions speak louder than words. And always be Happy!