Life Lessons| Create Happy Moments

This 12 month period has being of growing, learning, accepting and most of all of knowing who I am, what I’m capable of and how blessed I am.

Being a mother of an Asperger’s syndrome boy gives you a new perspective in life. I really don’t know who is more blessed, my magnificent boy or me.

I don’t know who is the teacher, the kids or the parents. In my case I have 2 teachers that show me every day that being happy,  have fun and joy in life is more important than work, or paying bills. All this  is not as important as having time with your kids or family. Problems, troubles and responsibilities we will have all along our life, but family is the most important thing in the world. For me my boys are the reason why I get up every day and go to work, and at night when I’m so tired, I just look at them while sleeping and see how blessed I am. I might not get huge presents all year-long but seeing my boys every day and being able to provide for them, is a huge blessing. They are my present 365 days a year and I feel so blessed about it.

Last week my little one told me very sad that he didn’t remember his childhood. He is 9 and doesn’t remember when he was little. I always knew Asperger’s kids have trouble remembering but it was not clear for me how much. I ended showing his baby pictures and he was happy. But this is something that has made me think a lot.

A happy life is a chain of happy memories, there is not a perfect moment, we create the perfect moments with our thoughts and even with our attitude, we make them. If we are just waiting for the perfect moment to come to make your move and say hi to the love of your life, it may never come. You need to be attuned with the universe to know when it comes, to know when to act, just like the people who love to surf they feel and know when the perfect wave is coming, life is like that, you need to be in the present, living each moment fully and happy, because as my kid show me, memorizes can be lost or forgotten. A picture will help you remember all the joy you have in your life.

Don’t wait for the perfect moment because it may never come, don’t wait for the perfect day, just  create your  perfect day by your attitude, by being attune with the Universe, by being happy, by feeling safe, by feeling proud and by loving and accepting yourself. This is how I teach my boys to be, sometimes stress and worries come but when I make a mistake I apologize for being grumpy or tiered or not fun as they need me to be, but there is no day without me expressing my love to them.

Create good memories for your family, every action is important. Actions speak louder than words. And always be Happy!



Find the blessings in desguise in your life | Find the opportunity in every experience

I was listening to one of my favorite YouTube channels and I had to stop because I didn’t agree on their point of view.

One of the things that they were saying is that when you are disconnected from yourself you don’t know where you are and I said, that’s right! How many of us had the privilege of knowing who we are or to know our purpose? I didn’t. I was blind and as  many people I went through life just crashing in to many  experiences and without knowing what was the best thing to choose.

I had the wonderful experience to go to University and study what I love, but it took me months to discover my true calling and one of my first passions in life: colors and communication.  I remember after High School I spend days just trying to figure out what was my next step in life. My dad was a very wise man and he gave me a little push and told me that I had to go to work, so I start looking for a job and I remember filling out an application and writing all my studies and I had one of my fist aha moments when I realize I could work on my second passion: teaching. And 2 days later one of my best friends of school calls me to lets me know about an opening in a school for me to teach.  When I told my dad, he was very happy and proud. It was a great experience and it helped me to know and to be more clear to what I wanted in life. Study Graphic Design.

It was challenging but very rewarding to be able to graduate and I just can’t stop designing, You see, one of the things that my dad taught me is that I had to find something that could make me very happy and love working on  it. And that same thing I teach my boys to find their passion and work on it.

But my life was not all roses, my life was like a rose itself, with thorns and exquisite smell that when I was able to take the thorns out, the perfume is still present in my life.

I could be writing and making you cry of all my misadventures, but I realize that my purpose is to be able to put a smile in your face and bring back hope in your life. Thanks to my out bring I’ve being able to live my duality and find the blessings in disguise in  my life and work in me to become who I am.

My mom is a very important part of this, she was an alcoholic, when I was 8 years old she tried to kill herself with pills. All is vague but I remember most of it and later on she became alcoholic. Growing up with her was hard and heartbreaking because you see how one of the people you love the most in the world destroys herself and there was nothing I could do.  My dad and the rest of my brothers and sister didn’t want to recognized the problem, they just ignored it till they saw it coming many years later.

My mom even though she had that problem she was an amazing person. She was funny, caring and one of the things she taught me the most was forgiveness. I was able to heal and forgive her before I got married and came to America.  She cared a lot for me and my boys and supported me all the way. I lost her in 2009, all those years drinking had cause her body to develop cancer and a tumor from the throat  down to the stomach and in a month we lost her. She gave us enough time to make peace and prepare for her departure.

She was waiting for me, she had lost her voice and even though she wanted to ask for forgiveness,  I already had, I understood her completely, loved her and told her that she was the mother I needed. My mom helped me to become who I am today. And those years when I saw her drunk I promised myself I was going to be a better mom for my kids, I was not going to hurt them as my mom did. Now that I have my own kids, I was not going to drink at all. I don’t drink at all, I’m always the designated driver. My ex husband used to drink heavily, I realize that sometimes you choose unconsciously what you are used to. Now I realized I tried to “save” him. One of my lessons with him was that I couldn’t rescue anyone who didn’t want to be rescued.

We all have our own timing and we all need to make our own decisions. It’s not that there is a book written with all the things that we have to live or suffer. We are writing the book of our lives every day, every moment, with our actions, with our words and with our feelings.

Life is like school, we all are learning, our experiences are the ones that show us how we are doing and our consequences are the blessings in disguise. It is hard to figure out what to do and where to go if we keep ignoring our intuition, our heart and our head. They will tell you the right way if you listen carefully and I can tell you that sometimes you hear a whisper from a tinny  a voice telling you the right path, it is when you need to turn on  your ears and listen. That is why going out to be in touch with Nature helps you to listen better, meditation, yoga or tai chi are very helpful as well.

For me growing up with my mom was challenging but I thank her for that. She is in heaven now, but I know when I have my challenges I always dream about her and she is supporting, cheering  and caring.  I might not be able to listen to her or hug her, but she is here with me and I’m thankful for that.

We all have our battles, our challenges and we are not going to learn from them till we make peace with them, until we forgive, until we decide to let that dark past stay in the past. We can’t rebuild the present with the ashes of the past, we need to start a new beginning and that is why we have a new day every day, a new opportunity to be happy, to be grateful, to feel the love inside and out of us because we are the creators of our lives, we are the architects of our own destiny and only you will know what is right for you, only you will know the right answer and as my teachers told me once, ” you are the responsible of our own destiny, no one is going to walk your footsteps or make your own path”. We are the ones who leave our footstep behind us. And my question for you is: What kind of footstep you want to leave behind?”

Forgive yourself, forgive others, forgive your past,  find the peace inside of you so you can build a castle you are proud of, a legacy to your kids and family. That is our main purpose in life.

With love and light


Life is a roller coaster | Choose Happiness Always!

Today I was chatting to a dear friend and we were talking about that this year everywhere you see, people are having some challenges. They can be economic, family or personal , but everybody has something going on.

As I recall last year 2012 was an end of a cycle and this year is a beginning of a new one, who knew that we all have to create,our own world our own reality and be responsible for our own actions, face our fears, and reborn from the ashes.

My life is a Great teacher, I have learned to be open and to listen. It’s hard to be a single mom and see that everybody has their own problems and issues, I have mine and sometimes are plenty, but I don’t like to live my life just focusing on my challenges, but on all the amazing opportunities life gives me, in all the lessons that I have from life, in all the incredible things that people teach me.
And in all the surprises that I have in life just by letting go and forgiveness.

I never knew that I would be friends again with the guy that abuse me in to expansion and thanks to him I am the person who I am today. After all he is the father of my boys. It took me 5 years to heal and forgive him and for sake of my boys we are friends. And is nice to see how he is trying to be a good dad for them.

You see, life can present us with something so huge that we might think we are not able to handle, but sometimes life brings us a huge lesson or a blessing in disguise. Or sometimes life asks us to get out of our comfort zone and try something new, like a change of careers, a new stage in our life or a new relationship.

What I have learned is that whatever that is that life brings, a heart full of hope, faith and detachment is the best medicine there is. It’s a tricky balance to let go of any results you want or what you want to manifest or to bring about and to know that you will received it.

I am still learning to balance in life, to bring about prosperity, abundance and happiness to my family and these same things I wish for you.

Life is an adventure with ups and downs, turns and twists, where time goes so fast that when you realize is one more day, week and year, and the only gift we have is the present, the NOW, where we all need to feel the joy and happiness of being alive and the peace that everything will be alright.

And when rough times come knocking at your door, stay calm, breath and imagine this whole magnificent world supporting you, because that is how it is. We create our own reality and we better create something to be proud of, something to be happy about that will help us to cherish moments with our family, kids and the world.

Just remind yourself that you are in charge of how you feel today and that today and always you will choose happiness.


LOVE is Always the Answer

Happiness depends upon ourselves. Aristotle

Happiness depends upon ourselves.

Once again we were remained about how fragile our lives are and how we can lose someone we love with a blink of an eye. And our instinct, our first emotion is to deal fear.
When we place ourselves in that place full of it

, we become weak, insecure and we let open the door to all negative emotions, and believe it or not, they can destroy our individual world.
We all are creators of our own realities, of our own lives, our own dreams and purpose and being happy depend on the realization of all of them.
These times are times to show off our courage, our love, and our happiness. We all need to feel that Love create us, and yes, it is painful what happened but sometimes we need to get up, take off the dirt and move on.
Because whatever your religion or your faith you need to feel that we all are safe and build positive, caring and loving thoughts around us as well as those who got harmed in Boston.
And when you feel sad, or have fear, know that you are safe always, no matter what. We are safe and there is a world and a human brotherhood who supports you, because even in this situation good people came to rescue.
And it all depends on how you see your life, half empty or half full. The decision is yours.

Love Kinsky

New Year | New Hopes | New You

Do what makes you happy

Do What makes you happy

2012 went by like a flash and now a brand new year is here. Many people wondered if we were going to be alive, but we all are with new hope and dreams.

A new year always comes with hopes, dreams and with many resolutions that over time we forget why we made them. Some of them we will keep and some we will break in one or 2 days, but it’s just human nature and we all keep going with our lives.

Many of us will encounter challenges that will test our faith in our dreams and many of us will just stop fighting for them, quit and then we will get a new one.

What many of us really don’t get is that those challenges are the ones that make us better people, problems are opportunities and they will always come with their solution by the hand. We are the ones who need to learn how to calm ourselves in the middle of the storm and find the solutions. Duality makes us strong and the storm we face will be followed by a brand new shiny day.

Quitting is a choice but sometimes if we stick to our dream long enough and continue fighting for it even if we fail thousand times, we will succeed. Nothing is forever, nor the storm, nor the challenges and we need to stay with the feet well put on the ground and our head in the heavens. We need to stay balance, focus in our dream, always.

Find something that makes you happy, really happy and you can spend hours doing it, that is your passion. Work should be done by people passionate on what they do so they can spend hours working and enjoying themselves doing.

I have seen so many people unhappy to go to work and they just work by earning enough money because of their needs or family needs and they spend eternal time on the job. Many hate their jobs and people where they work.

Find the pleasure of working on what you love. That needs to be something that children need to be taught.

We all have to work and provide a service that will bring income so we can provide for our family but this service needs to be what we are good at and what we love to do. Not just like many parents teach their kids to follow their steps or to find a career where they can earn a lot of money.Money will come always after your work on  what you love.

For this we need courage to follow our dreams and be sure of what we want, it might seem we are swimming against the current, or climbing a very high mountain, or we feel we have fail thousand times. Emerson fail more than thousand times and he didn’t give up. And if he did it, so are we. We can do it.

In this year, keep your hopes high with a strong faith that you will be able to succeed in this wonderful brand new year.

Love and Light


In the Middle of the Storm | Self Help | Transformation | Hope | Hurricane Sandy

We have seen recently an incredible super storm, a hurricane call Sandy. My thoughts and prayers are for the afterhours and for all the people who lived the super storm.

But sometimes I think of all the rest of us who have to go through life and experience a Super Storm. It is when all our lives are shaken and we are moved from head to toes to think, to do, to see and perceive things differently and after this storm we are transformed, we are different.

In my life I have lived many hurricanes that had made me grow and understand life better, for many people is not “nice” or ‘safe” because life moves you and takes you from your safety place to become more.

Many of us prefer to stay where we are and see the clouds go by and see the day turn into night and the night into day, the days into months and years, and they are still the same, unmoved. Last year, I went to a self grow seminar and I learned that we are like trees, a tree grows and keeps growing, but when we cut the tree, the tree dies.

We all have lived through pain, and negative or bad experiences that in a way has “injured” us or cut us, we prefer to hold that pain instead of letting it go and keep moving forward. We prefer to blame someone instead of admitting that is our fault and we are responsible of what happen. And when years go by we are stuck in the same situation and in a way we start dying.

Nature as well as our Source play a very important part in our life, sometimes we need this tough experiences to move us in to action and to wake us up. To give thanks that we are alive, no matter in which circumstance we are, we are alive and breathing. And believe it or not, God will provide. A new day will always come and we will always have tomorrow to do things better or right.

It is painful to lose someone in a Natural disaster, or to lose your parents or a member of a family, or to lose everything, but if we are still here, it means that we still have things to do, learn and the most important task of all, we need to become. It will take time to heal and to be in our feet, but as long as you are breathing, as long as you have a new day, things will get better and we need to have FAITH and BELIEVE that everything is going to be alright.

I learned this kind of the hard way, but after having few hurricanes in my life, now I know that the best thing is to always be thankful and grateful for every single good thing that happens to you today. I lived many days and months in a very harsh situation, with 2 little boys. Alone without my family around, and “no one” to depend on, I had to see and feed, pay rent and provide for my family. For me my ex husband’s excused of I don’t have money, doesn’t exist in my vocabulary, God provides and those days where I didn’t know where the money was going to come to pay rent or to put food on my table to feed my boys, came, always came, and it still does. And every day I make sure to thank God, or my Source, for being able to provide for my family without any help of my kids’ dad. Miracles happen if you believe and have faith.

I had to learn it, it doesn’t matter how strong or dreadful is your storm, we can always get up and move forward. We can be tired or hurt and we might need a break. Take a break and rest, get your strength back and move forward because you will always have tomorrow and a brand new day to live, to hope, to wish for a better tomorrow. Nothing last forever and there is ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel.

And when there is hope, we can still make it and you will make it! I’m sure.

In the middle of the storm or in the eye of the hurricane we need to be calm, with our feet well grounded on the floor, our head clear to think and our heart full of hope and strength to do and solve what we need to do. Ask for help, connect with your source, to God, He will always deliver and lead the way.

My thoughts and prayers go for those who lived this Hurricane. May God guide you, protect you and give you strength in what you need to solve and live. Many blessings for you and your family and may God keep you safe today and always.



All through my life I have found resources from best motivational speakers, transformational authors, psychologists, religious and spiritual people who helped me find my way and to discover who I was. I can tell you that the only purpose in life we have is to become who we are destined to be, to work in our passion and to provide a service to the world. That is the way to have a successful and fulfilling life.
Many years ago I discovered that all the material things come in to our life when we have done three important things:
First we need to be which led me to discover who I was, to accept, love, heal and become.
Second, we need to do, which led me to discover what I love to do, my talents. We all come to this Earth with a special talent and that talent is the one that is going to help us to bring prosperity in our lives. Sometimes that hidden talent is something that we acquire when we are sick or we discover as a result of a challenge or a disease . Sometimes it is something that has left a mark inside our soul and is such an experience that we remember all of our lives. Sometimes we need to heal but that healing if we accept it with love, will lead us to an amazing future and it will depend on how we use it when the abundance will come to us.
Third to have. After we have done all of our work, we will have the material things we desire. But it is very important how we use our minds, our feelings, and specially our thoughts to magnetize what we want and the abundance will come to us.