Life Lessons| Create Happy Moments

This 12 month period has being of growing, learning, accepting and most of all of knowing who I am, what I’m capable of and how blessed I am.

Being a mother of an Asperger’s syndrome boy gives you a new perspective in life. I really don’t know who is more blessed, my magnificent boy or me.

I don’t know who is the teacher, the kids or the parents. In my case I have 2 teachers that show me every day that being happy,  have fun and joy in life is more important than work, or paying bills. All this  is not as important as having time with your kids or family. Problems, troubles and responsibilities we will have all along our life, but family is the most important thing in the world. For me my boys are the reason why I get up every day and go to work, and at night when I’m so tired, I just look at them while sleeping and see how blessed I am. I might not get huge presents all year-long but seeing my boys every day and being able to provide for them, is a huge blessing. They are my present 365 days a year and I feel so blessed about it.

Last week my little one told me very sad that he didn’t remember his childhood. He is 9 and doesn’t remember when he was little. I always knew Asperger’s kids have trouble remembering but it was not clear for me how much. I ended showing his baby pictures and he was happy. But this is something that has made me think a lot.

A happy life is a chain of happy memories, there is not a perfect moment, we create the perfect moments with our thoughts and even with our attitude, we make them. If we are just waiting for the perfect moment to come to make your move and say hi to the love of your life, it may never come. You need to be attuned with the universe to know when it comes, to know when to act, just like the people who love to surf they feel and know when the perfect wave is coming, life is like that, you need to be in the present, living each moment fully and happy, because as my kid show me, memorizes can be lost or forgotten. A picture will help you remember all the joy you have in your life.

Don’t wait for the perfect moment because it may never come, don’t wait for the perfect day, just  create your  perfect day by your attitude, by being attune with the Universe, by being happy, by feeling safe, by feeling proud and by loving and accepting yourself. This is how I teach my boys to be, sometimes stress and worries come but when I make a mistake I apologize for being grumpy or tiered or not fun as they need me to be, but there is no day without me expressing my love to them.

Create good memories for your family, every action is important. Actions speak louder than words. And always be Happy!

Namaste!

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Find the blessings in desguise in your life | Find the opportunity in every experience

I was listening to one of my favorite YouTube channels and I had to stop because I didn’t agree on their point of view.

One of the things that they were saying is that when you are disconnected from yourself you don’t know where you are and I said, that’s right! How many of us had the privilege of knowing who we are or to know our purpose? I didn’t. I was blind and as  many people I went through life just crashing in to many  experiences and without knowing what was the best thing to choose.

I had the wonderful experience to go to University and study what I love, but it took me months to discover my true calling and one of my first passions in life: colors and communication.  I remember after High School I spend days just trying to figure out what was my next step in life. My dad was a very wise man and he gave me a little push and told me that I had to go to work, so I start looking for a job and I remember filling out an application and writing all my studies and I had one of my fist aha moments when I realize I could work on my second passion: teaching. And 2 days later one of my best friends of school calls me to lets me know about an opening in a school for me to teach.  When I told my dad, he was very happy and proud. It was a great experience and it helped me to know and to be more clear to what I wanted in life. Study Graphic Design.

It was challenging but very rewarding to be able to graduate and I just can’t stop designing, You see, one of the things that my dad taught me is that I had to find something that could make me very happy and love working on  it. And that same thing I teach my boys to find their passion and work on it.

But my life was not all roses, my life was like a rose itself, with thorns and exquisite smell that when I was able to take the thorns out, the perfume is still present in my life.

I could be writing and making you cry of all my misadventures, but I realize that my purpose is to be able to put a smile in your face and bring back hope in your life. Thanks to my out bring I’ve being able to live my duality and find the blessings in disguise in  my life and work in me to become who I am.

My mom is a very important part of this, she was an alcoholic, when I was 8 years old she tried to kill herself with pills. All is vague but I remember most of it and later on she became alcoholic. Growing up with her was hard and heartbreaking because you see how one of the people you love the most in the world destroys herself and there was nothing I could do.  My dad and the rest of my brothers and sister didn’t want to recognized the problem, they just ignored it till they saw it coming many years later.

My mom even though she had that problem she was an amazing person. She was funny, caring and one of the things she taught me the most was forgiveness. I was able to heal and forgive her before I got married and came to America.  She cared a lot for me and my boys and supported me all the way. I lost her in 2009, all those years drinking had cause her body to develop cancer and a tumor from the throat  down to the stomach and in a month we lost her. She gave us enough time to make peace and prepare for her departure.

She was waiting for me, she had lost her voice and even though she wanted to ask for forgiveness,  I already had, I understood her completely, loved her and told her that she was the mother I needed. My mom helped me to become who I am today. And those years when I saw her drunk I promised myself I was going to be a better mom for my kids, I was not going to hurt them as my mom did. Now that I have my own kids, I was not going to drink at all. I don’t drink at all, I’m always the designated driver. My ex husband used to drink heavily, I realize that sometimes you choose unconsciously what you are used to. Now I realized I tried to “save” him. One of my lessons with him was that I couldn’t rescue anyone who didn’t want to be rescued.

We all have our own timing and we all need to make our own decisions. It’s not that there is a book written with all the things that we have to live or suffer. We are writing the book of our lives every day, every moment, with our actions, with our words and with our feelings.

Life is like school, we all are learning, our experiences are the ones that show us how we are doing and our consequences are the blessings in disguise. It is hard to figure out what to do and where to go if we keep ignoring our intuition, our heart and our head. They will tell you the right way if you listen carefully and I can tell you that sometimes you hear a whisper from a tinny  a voice telling you the right path, it is when you need to turn on  your ears and listen. That is why going out to be in touch with Nature helps you to listen better, meditation, yoga or tai chi are very helpful as well.

For me growing up with my mom was challenging but I thank her for that. She is in heaven now, but I know when I have my challenges I always dream about her and she is supporting, cheering  and caring.  I might not be able to listen to her or hug her, but she is here with me and I’m thankful for that.

We all have our battles, our challenges and we are not going to learn from them till we make peace with them, until we forgive, until we decide to let that dark past stay in the past. We can’t rebuild the present with the ashes of the past, we need to start a new beginning and that is why we have a new day every day, a new opportunity to be happy, to be grateful, to feel the love inside and out of us because we are the creators of our lives, we are the architects of our own destiny and only you will know what is right for you, only you will know the right answer and as my teachers told me once, ” you are the responsible of our own destiny, no one is going to walk your footsteps or make your own path”. We are the ones who leave our footstep behind us. And my question for you is: What kind of footstep you want to leave behind?”

Forgive yourself, forgive others, forgive your past,  find the peace inside of you so you can build a castle you are proud of, a legacy to your kids and family. That is our main purpose in life.

With love and light

Kinsky

LOVE is Always the Answer

Happiness depends upon ourselves. Aristotle

Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Aristotle

Once again we were remained about how fragile our lives are and how we can lose someone we love with a blink of an eye. And our instinct, our first emotion is to deal fear.
When we place ourselves in that place full of it

, we become weak, insecure and we let open the door to all negative emotions, and believe it or not, they can destroy our individual world.
We all are creators of our own realities, of our own lives, our own dreams and purpose and being happy depend on the realization of all of them.
These times are times to show off our courage, our love, and our happiness. We all need to feel that Love create us, and yes, it is painful what happened but sometimes we need to get up, take off the dirt and move on.
Because whatever your religion or your faith you need to feel that we all are safe and build positive, caring and loving thoughts around us as well as those who got harmed in Boston.
And when you feel sad, or have fear, know that you are safe always, no matter what. We are safe and there is a world and a human brotherhood who supports you, because even in this situation good people came to rescue.
And it all depends on how you see your life, half empty or half full. The decision is yours.

Love Kinsky

Appreciation | Gratitude | Abundance

Have you ever thought about how many times we don’t appreciate what we have? Have you ever wonder when was the last time you felt gratitude towards someone or something or just by being alive? Have you ever asked why Abundance hasn’t come in your life?

Well, appreciation and gratitude are very important for the abundance to come to our life. We need to be thankful and find our peace and love for the people and circumstances we are living, no matter how hard they are because they have the key for abundance and happiness to come to us.

We can create a better world just by simply telling someone how special they are or the impact they have made in our lives. Many times we don’t tell our family how much we love them. We are not eternal and we might not have a second chance to tell them how important they are in our lives.

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